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According to You It’s Pretty Much Over. But I’ll Toss You 10 “Yes You Can’s.” Catch!

Stress

In tears, running his fingers through his hair, he was laying it all out. His failing marriage, troubled son, depression, and anxiety – it was all too much to bear. “Bill, I’m totally collapsing. I can’t make it this time around!”

I looked him square in the eye and calmly said, “Yes you can.” And we moved-on from there…

Tired and dysfunctional relationships, family members and friends in crisis, the economy, 24/7 troubling news broadcasts, a never-ending winter – God only knows what else. And on top of it all, your symptoms.

Is it any wonder you find yourself believing (as in perception) you’re on the very brink of collapse?

No surprise – the whirlwind is what you make of it (after all, you made it). Oh, I know we’re all built differently, with tolerances all over the board. But rarely (as in <1%) have I worked with someone in the midst of hell that I didn’t believe had the interpersonal resources to emerge.

Okay, I’m a licensed counselor. But first and foremost I’m a mood and anxiety veteran. I’ve been on the verge of what I believed to be collapse numerous times over several decades.

I know the horror and hopelessness of – you name it – panic, anxiety, derealization, depersonalization, agoraphobia, intrusive thoughts, depression, elevated mood, and alcoholism.

As many times as I thought my goose was cooked, it never happened. Actually, I had too much invested in my misery to bail. I mean, how could I continue to beat myself to a pulp if I perished?

But then it was time to survive for the best of reasons…

10 “Yes You Can’s!”

What I’m about to offer didn’t spew forth from a shrink textbook or a counseling conference. I wouldn’t do that to you. What you’re about to read comes from my heart, based upon my life experience.

When you find yourself standing at the threshold of what you think is total collapse, come back to the following (dang, print this)…

  1. Put the whirlwind on hold. Step back, take a few deep breaths – somehow divert – and open even a tiny space for perspective.
  2. Make a short list – mental or otherwise – of what’s truly going on.
  3. Come to grips with your history of inaccurate/distorted thinking, which has always led to troublesome emotions and behavior.
  4. Accept the reality of life’s unavoidable suffering – and be worthy of yours. It may come in different flavors, but all of us are called to endure pain.
  5. Take your first steps toward changing your patterns of thought. Start with #3, and move on to the fact that your emotional and mental reserves are deeper than you believe.
  6. Think about times in the past when you were at the very same place. Come on, you know you have been – and made it out.
  7. Grab a pad and pencil and jot down as many pieces of personal history survival-proof as you can.
  8. From a different angle, try to prove to yourself you’re unable to emerge (good luck).
  9. Meditate upon the lessons to be learned in your present situation. And be thankful you have the opportunity to grow.
  10. Get angry! Come on, are you going to let your circumstances beat you? Bam!

Again, I know the hell of despair and believing emotional, mental, and physical collapse are at hand. I’m 100% with you and feel your pain, darkness, and hopelessness.

But in the midst of seemingly 10 million “I can’t take it anymore’s!”, I blindly chose to keep bouncing back. And then it happened – I emerged and flew skyward like a butterfly.

Is it any wonder I can calmly reassure you – “Yes you can.”

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