“I can’t believe it – the holiday season is here again. And just as I’ve gotten over the 2012 nightmare. Psychological disorders? Nervous breakdown? Symptoms of stress? I’m all about ‘em!”
Yikes! I’m thinkin’ someone’s gonna’ skip the chestnuts roasting on an open fire bit. “Jingle Bell Rock?” It’s probably gonna’ get thrown at the first person to even think about hanging mistletoe (much less trying to cop a smooch). And Santa’s status in the image? A-ok!
I know, I know – I’m leading with levity. And the subject matter really isn’t humorous, is it? No doubt, this is an ultra-tough time of the year for millions. And grappling with the holiday season blues big-time ups the misery ante for those enduring a mood and/or anxiety disorder.
Shoot, so many bad memories and learned emotional and mental traditions. Life can definitely be hard.
Okay, then, we’ve established the obvious. And if you’re having a rough go of it, I likely earned your attention. So what can we do about this aggravation? Well, I don’t know about you, but as someone who occasionally scores above average on the holiday season blues scale, I refuse to acquiesce to discomfort.
“Great, Bill, so besides that supposed wit of yours, whatcha’ got in mind?”
Well, let’s start with the power of context. Yes, millions of us have endured intense ick during past holiday seasons. And, of course, the settings and players all too often come back to haunt us. But if we can discipline our minds to default to context, the ghosts take a powder – and it’s on to becoming secure in the present. News flash! This is 2013, not the year(s) during which we took the hits.
And then there’s acceptance. Now, I realize I just mentioned refusing to acquiesce to discomfort. But acquiescence and acceptance are two different things. Acceptance is about embracing our present circumstances, as distressing as they may be. And then, of course, working toward change. Don’t you think it’s a much better approach than lamenting our immediate misery and striving for a turn-back-time miracle?
Last, but certainly not least, I believe we have to lay claim to our holiday season. It is, after all, ours. I understand children and grandchildren have to be accommodated; however, there’s no reason why the accommodation can’t be on our terms – or at least in the spirit of a mutual meeting of needs. And when it comes to family and friends, doggone it, we can only do what we can do. Expectations are a mighty force, but so is the resolve to take care of ourselves.
People! Psychological disorders, nervous breakdown, symptoms of stress. I suppose each and every one of them can be the essence of our 2013 holiday season. But I challenge you to be proactive – assertive – in establishing inner peace and comfort. Why can’t this be a year of lasting change?
“Ah, if the trauma hadn’t occurred.” “Damn, I’d be just fine, but for the past.” So what’s the old saying? “If ‘ifs’ and ‘buts’ were candy and nuts, every day would be Christmas.”
Wouldn’t that be a drag?!
Hey, are you hurtin’ right about now? I can’t fix it, but my heart sure goes out to you. I feel your pain…
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