We’ve been working on a series based upon the adage “The chickens always come home to roost.” We’ve learned prevention is key, but today we’re going to discuss what to do if, and when, the chickens actually hit home.
In the first two articles in the series we talked about the personal issues that often lead to us having to deal in the present with the truism. We also discussed prevention strategies and techniques. Oh, here are links to article 1 and article 2.
But we need to know what to expect, and what to do, should our insight and prevention work fail us. Indeed, what happens when the chickens actually do come home to roost.
In preparation, it’s really important to, again, review the three personal issues that typically bring us to terms with the adage.
- An inaccurate perception of the reality of ourselves and our circumstances
- Irresponsibility and immaturity (triple “Ouch!”)
Though it’s all over the first bullet-point, all three are actually grounded in altered perceptions of reality. Of course, the severity of the alteration may vary. One may have a smidge of insight into themselves and their circumstances; however, someone else may have absolutely no idea they’re living a fairy tale.
In either case, it can be incredibly disarming when the truth of our deception and situation hits home. I mean, think about it, most everything we believed to be “us,” in fact, wasn’t. It’s like we were standing at the top of a 10-foot ladder and the rungs magically turned into tissue-paper.
Boom! Down we go!
So now what do we do?
First of all, we can’t allow ourselves to flip the switch on our alarm system. Having to deal with our fight/flight response is the very last thing we need.
What matters most in the midst of the most vulnerable of times is latching-on to even small pieces of identity and security. I wrote a piece not long ago entitled, “Security: 12 Lasting Foundations.” Here’s a link to the article, but I’d like to present the “12 Lasting Foundations” again…
- Positive self-regard
- Positive self-care
- Emotional, mental, and physical health
- Insight into our excesses and their management
- Resilience and tenacity
- Healthy committed relationships, and friendships
- Helping others
Now, in a perfect world, having a solid relationship with at least one of these – before we slid down the ladder – would be ideal. But given our present circumstances, it may not be feasible. And so we may have to do a whole lot of growing and developing on the fly.
But I’m convinced we can do it! And I’m also convinced that lessons learned in the very heat of the battle are the ones never forgotten. And that bodes so well for our tomorrows.
“The chickens always come home to roost.” Truer words were never spoken. And I’d like to see all of us grow to the point where the adage serves as a reminder, not a present reality begging for our attention and action.
What’s your take on the series, chipur readers? Your comments help us all.