I began a three-part series yesterday on the truism “The chickens always come home to roost.” Now that the table’s set, I’d like to discuss how we can avoid having to face the adage in the first place.
In yesterday’s piece – here’s a link – I suggested the saying hits home for us typically because of three things…
- An inaccurate perception of the reality of ourselves and our circumstances
- Irresponsibility and immaturity (again, “Ouch!”)
Now, as with most anything those of us enduring depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder endure; prevention is always the best medicine. And prevention can’t be put into motion until we become familiar with what we want to prevent – and what’s causing it.
As it applies to this discussion, our goal is to avoid having to even think about “The chickens always come home to roost.” And in order to do that we need to detect and come to grips with the patterns of feeling, thought, and behavior that have traditionally gotten us into trouble.
So let’s approach each bullet point and see what we can do about it…
Inaccurate perception of the reality of ourselves and our circumstances
The first order of business is insight and acceptance, because we’ll never make progress until we’re dialed-in to our predicament. Only then can we attempt to secure the motivation and direction to eliminate the denial, diversion, and rationalization that keep us from true insight into ourselves and our circumstances.
So much of this involves issues with self-image and self-regard. And it’s up to us to come to know just how “off” our perceptions really are, and what to do about it. Need some help? Here’s an article which was part of a series I wrote on negative self-image and positive self-regard. Good reading.
And, you know, this is where the viewpoints and counsel of a trust friend, family member, or counselor can really come in handy. It always helps to get a reality-check from an outside source.
Procrastination is the easiest of our issues to approach and repair. I mean, coming to know it’s a problem is fairly easy. Beating procrastination is a matter of a change in both thought and behavior. I guess what I’m saying is, if we truly want to defeat it, we can. Period. For plenty more, I’m going to direct you to the first in a series I did on procrastination some time ago. Here’s the link.
Irresponsibility and immaturity
Ah, the most sensitive issue of all. Did it anger you that I would even suggest irresponsibility and immaturity may be issues? I know it aggravated the heck out of me when folks tossed it my way. But you know what? They were right. I came to know I’d skipped a few classes on maturity throughout the years.
There was no other way to put it – I needed to grow-up. And I made it my business to do exactly that. Still do.
And I’ll tell you, the concept of growing-up has a reciprocating relationship with our first two bullet points. Working toward maturity helps with our perception of personal reality and procrastination, just as working on both of them helps us grow.
“The chickens always come home to roost.” Well, yes they do. But now you have a few strategies and techniques in your back-pocket to help you sidestep having to care.
So come on back tomorrow, as we tie a bow on the series. I’d like us to talk about what we can do if it gets to the point where we have to greet the chickens coming home.