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Frozen in Symptoms? Ya’ Gotta’ Roll the Bones!

Major Depressive Disorder

Holed-up in her comfort zone, Kim had her strategy set in stone. She’d go ahead and venture-out once she was 90% symptom-free. “Yeah, that’s the ticket.” But that was two years ago, and the stone remains solid.

Yep, I know all too well the reasoning behind getting our symptoms straight before we venture-out. And I know it’s absolutely backwards. I mean, doesn’t it make sense that with rare exception symptoms don’t magically resolve on their own – that overnight miracle?

I hear it all the time from clients. Heck, I declared the same all those years ago…

I really am going to venture beyond my comfort zone, Bill. I am, for sure. But I’m going to wait until I’m pretty much symptom-free. I just don’t want to risk falling flat on my face.

Doesn’t matter the circumstances – generalized anxiety, a depressive episode, panic attacks, social phobia, a body image issue, agoraphobia, psychosis – few of us want to venture beyond our comfort zone(s) when our symptoms are churnin’. Unfortunately, that can be a chronic predicament.

Really, it all comes down to risk-taking. And that typically isn’t our strong suit.

The Truth and Rollin’ Those Bones

Read Kim’s strategy again. Fact is, the way she has it figured is backwards (and I suspect she knows it). Symptoms go bye-bye when we take risks, being willing to move forward into the (perceived) unknown in the face of (perceived) danger.

So, you’re thinking I came by the truth in a clinical text or article? No, life brought it my way – that school of hard knocks.

Here’s just one example…

A number of years ago I was unemployed and frozen in symptoms. Dang, you name it – panic, agoraphobia, generalized anxiety, depression. And the frosting on the cake? Derealization and depersonalization.

Now, I badly needed a job and knew I’d have to venture-out to score. And I was fully aware it was going to have to happen while eyebrow-deep in symptoms. I mean, there wasn’t going to be an overnight miracle.

Well, I had an interview one sweltering-hot summer day, and believe me when I tell you I was going “gaga” with symptoms. Still, I knew I had to head-out and somehow ace the interview. I still remember the drive – upper-90s temps, dripping sweat, mouth so dry I could barely open it, hair-on-fire anxiety, and feeling so perceptually detached from my surroundings – myself.

But doggone it, I got there and, indeed, aced the interview. I was offered the job a week later and accepted.

By the way, taking that job in the human services field – I’d been in marketing – led to my enrollment in grad school and earning my counseling credentials.

Yep, I know all too well the reasoning behind getting our symptoms straight before we venture-out. And I know it’s absolutely backwards.

I mean, doesn’t it make sense that with rare exception symptoms don’t magically resolve on their own – that overnight miracle? No, they require cognitive and behavioral intervention and management, both leading to extinction of our faulty patterns of thought and subsequent dysfunctional feelings and behavior.

That’s the truth.

Feeling More at Ease with Our Symptoms

Do your symptoms freak-you-out? Let’s see if we can get you to feel more at ease with them by absorbing the insight of Dr. M. Scott Peck from The Road Less Traveled

The symptoms and the illness are not the same thing. The illness exists long before the symptoms. Rather than being the illness, the symptoms are the beginning of its cures. The fact that they are unwanted makes them all the more a phenomenon of grace – a gift of God, a message from the unconscious, if you will, to initiate self-examination and repair.

Hmmm, I still carry an index card in my wallet with that written upon it.

Let’s Wrap ‘Er Up

Absolutely, holed-up in her comfort zone, Kim had her strategy set in stone. She’d go ahead and venture-out once she was 90% symptom-free. “Yeah, that’s the ticket,” she said.

But, again, that was two years ago, and nothing’s changed.

Name it – generalized anxiety, a depressive episode, panic, social phobia, a body image issue, agoraphobia, psychosis. The only way our symptoms are going to become tolerable – or go bye-bye altogether – is when we venture-out in spite of them. It’ll never be the other way around.

So come-on, be a risk-taker. Roll the bones!

You can do this.

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  • Patricia Miller

    LOVE, LOVE, LOVE IT!! I absolutely hate pushing myself through the midst of the symptoms, the dread, the fear, the distress and the urge to vomit at a moments notice. I groan internally when I wake up in the morning and find myself facing a day when the bed seems more inviting than the calendar and my to do list, when all I can think of is how much better it would be to just close the window shades, put in my ear plugs, my face mask and become “sensory deprivation woman” once again. However, the reality is that I drag myself into the shower….go get a cup of coffee (the joy of caffeine), take the necessary morning medications and vitamins, fix my morning protein drink, do my hair and make up, and walk out that door. Every day I do this it is easier the next….Maybe or maybe not, but it is sure easier than it would be if I never did it. I also know that gradually and over time all of my symptoms have been remitting. I am far less distressed, far less “hair on fire”, though I can tell you the moments certainly are there. If I did give in to the urges to become the “sensory deprivation woman”, then I know my life would have far less joy, be so much more narrow, and I would not see the progress I am finding now. Thank you again for reminding all of us Bill that this journey is a daily one.

    • Well, we’re nuthin’ but all about love, love, love here on Chipur. Sure appreciate your visit and contribution, Patricia. You’re always willing to share your personal experience with us. And that’s so important to anyone who may stop-by and read the article. S/he needs to know those of us livin’ in the trenches do, in fact, struggle. I mean, yeah, that’s the reality of the circumstances within which we find ourselves. But, as you note, the tenacity of approaching a day in spite of how lousy we feel produces positive results over time. We do get better! Yep, this journey is a daily one. And that’s simply the way it is (acceptance – not acquiescence – implied)…
      Bill