“My mind’s on overload and I’m so mixed-up. I know something isn’t right and I want to fix it, but I don’t know how to get started. And even if I can, I wouldn’t know what to do next. All I’m looking for is a little relief.”
Someone asked me a complicated question the other day. The challenge was, she wanted a simple answer. Hmmm.
In my words, the question: “What is your professional approach in bringing a client to relief from despair?” Wow!
I gave her a quality answer; however, as usual, it got me to thinkin’. So I spent more time on the matter and came up with something I believe you’ll find helpful.
I’d like to share…
R.E.L.I.E.F. (go ahead, take it)
Anyone enduring a mood and/or anxiety disorder so often finds themselves in brain-overload. So it’s really important to keep useful strategies and techniques simple.
Personally and professionally, acronyms have always worked well for me. So here’s a spin on R.E.L.I.E.F. that will hit the spot…
- Reveal: How could you expect to find relief from anything if you have no idea as to what’s wrong? Sure, you know you feel rotten, but what’s the root culprit? It never ceases to amaze me how even counselors miss this crucial starting point. So it’s about doing what it takes to reveal the true nature of your distress, and moving forward from there.
- Endorse: Well, now that you know what’s going-on, it’s time to accept and own it. You have to be ready, willing, and able to endorse your situation. It’s no different than endorsing a check – acknowledging the funds are yours and you’ve consented to a specific action.
- Logistics: According to good ‘ole merriam-webster.com – logistics: the handling of the details of an operation. There’s no way you’re going to find relief in the midst of emotional and mental upheaval without a well considered action plan. Draft one and with flexibility, stick to it.
- Invest: People invest their money day-in and day-out for financial gain. I say being willing to invest your time, energy, and money for interpersonal gain is top-drawer important. Where’s the effort if there’s no personal investment?
- Energy: I know it’s a tough commodity to come by for someone enduring a mood or anxiety disorder. But securing emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical energy is crucial. The work ahead is tough and requires true grit. So you have to make it your business to find and sustain sources of spirit and vigor.
- Follow-Up: You’ll do your best work, and vastly increase the potential for positive outcomes, when you follow-up. In the pursuit of relief from emotional and mental misery it involves ongoing monitoring, flexibility, adjusting, and re-energizing (like the Energizer Bunny). It’s also about following-up with your counselor, psychiatrist, and/or physician.
The R.E.L.I.E.F. Wrap
So your mind is overloaded. Whose wouldn’t be in the midst of your circumstances? Whether you’re seemingly void of thought and feeling, or your mind and emotions are racing like an Indy car – perspective and direction are tough to come by.
This is the time for a simple concept to get you going and sustain your effort.
When your world is a calamity of pain and frustration, the only thing that matters is R.E.L.I.E.F…
Take it, it’s yours!
The image I used is a Soul Painting by Susan Tower. She calls herself “…a gifted clairvoyant and a visionary artist.” Interesting stuff. Check-out her website at susantower.com.