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One of the Secrets of Relief: Don’t Lose The Forest For The Trees!

Those of us who endure depression, anxiety, bipolarity, and chronic stress work so hard. Am I right? I mean, on top of the “normal” things life throws at anyone; our personal concern and management list is longer still.

Hmmm – how ’bout these…

  • “Man, I’m just flat today – what’s up with that?”
  • “What am I going to do if I have a bout with derealization like I did last night?”
  • “Is this stuff ever going to let up – or go away?”
  • “Damn, I’m so panicky today; and I have a one-on-one with the boss this afternoon?”
  • “I haven’t slept well for a week now – how am I going to put a day together?”
  • “I have to talk with my ex tonight – how am I going to keep from snapping-off?”
  • “I’m tired of all this crap!”

It’s awful, isn’t it? And it’s always amazed me how we manage to keep moving at times. And it’s also amazed me how most folks either don’t know, or don’t appreciate, just what it takes sometimes for us to function.

It’s easy to understand why anyone who thinks and feels the things I listed would want to do most anything to find and sustain relief. I touched upon this very issue in my previous article, as I issued a heads-up regarding fraudulent products and services being peddled on the web and elsewhere.

The point I want to make here is this notion of not losing the forest for the trees. I mean, most of us search and search and search for tips and techniques to help us manage our situation. And those of us who have therapists are inundated with even more stuff.

But we can get so bogged down in the trees of seeking, learning, applying, and practicing that we lose sight of the big picture – the forest. Are you following me? Hey – we need to do all we can to self-improve, but if we get so wrapped-up in the minutia, our focus upon the basics falls by the wayside.

That said, I’m starting this list of foundational principles we always want to keep foremost in our minds…

  • What are my recovery goals?
  • Where am I now with regard to my goals?
  • How have I improved?
  • What needs more work?
  • Who are the important people in my life?
  • How is my relationship with my significant others?
  • Are there new goals I need to establish?
  • Your input???

Working hard is a good thing, especially when it means establishing and maintaining some measure of comfort – and a life. However, if we’re not careful we’ll become so obsessed with the little things that we’ll totally lose perspective on what really matters – the forest.

What would you add to our list? What are your thoughts and feelings? Won’t you comment?

  • karen

    Ok, but what about the part of just “being”? and accepting? and trust me, I know there are no miracle cures, because if there were, we wouldn’t be here in this situation. I might be missing the point, but sometimes it seems as though I can only spend so much time and energy focusing on my goals and just need to accept and veg for a day or a week. wouldn’t it be nice if people without “disorders” (assuming thery exist) spent trime trying to figure out how to make our lives easier? instead of us having to fit their mold? another stream of consciousness post……sorry.

    • Hi Karen. I actually think we agree here. Maybe I didn’t express myself well. I guess what I meant was we need to get away from all the minutia and focus on the big picture. Granted, that may take us away from “just being,” but not as much as pounding technique. Yet, as always, your point is well taken. And no need to apologize for feeling as you do. And, yes, it would be nice if we didn’t always have to fit the mold of cast by others; and I guess there comes a time when we simply can’t ask that of ourselves any longer – regardless of perceived demands. Great hearing from you!