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Sometimes Ya’ Just Need Your Mom (with lyrics by David Gates)

Mother’s Love

Let’s face it, sometimes a guy or gal just needs their mom. I don’t care how old we are, or sophisticated, vulnerability is reality.

My mother died on August 20, 2009. And I don’t know that I could really get my arms around my feelings at the time. I posted an article here on chipur the day after she left us; and, frankly, my Dad and Brother weren’t too thrilled with it. But I spoke my heart and mind, and there you have it. Here’s a link to the piece.

It’s curious – over the past 16 months I’ve come to understand just how much I miss my mom. Oh, it’s not so much the lump-in-the-throat routine. No, it’s more a matter of wanting to share my life with her, seeking her counsel, and coming to know more about her little corner of the world.

Know what I mean?

Wonder why I decided to write about my mom today. Who knows? Maybe it’s the holidays. Or maybe it’s because I’m working through some stuff that has me a bit gummed up.

Hmmm…

I’d like to share the lyrics of one of my favorite songs, “Everything I Own,” written by David Gates and recorded by Bread. The story goes, David Gates was taken aside by a friend at his father’s funeral. The friend shared how deeply proud his father was of his work. Gates told his friend he knew how much his success meant to his father, and he shared that his father was his greatest influence. In short order, he wrote the song.

You sheltered me from harm
Kept me warm, kept me warm
You gave my life to me
Set me free, set me free

The finest years I ever knew
Were all the years I had with you

And I would give everything I own
Give up my life, my heart, my home
I would give everything I own
Just to have you back again

You taught me how to love
What it’s of, what’s it’s of
You never said too much
But still you showed the way
And I knew from watching you

Nobody else could ever know
The part of me that can’t let go

And I would give everything I own
Give up my life, my heart, my home
I would give everything I own
Just to have you back again

Is there someone you know
You’re loving them so
But taking them all for granted
You may lose them one day
Someone takes them away
And they don’t hear the words you long to say

I would give everything I own
Give up my life, my heart, my home
I would give everything I own
Just to have you back again
Just to touch you once again

I understand that expressing warm feelings about one’s mom – any close family member, for that matter – may be a dicey proposition on an emotional and mental health blog. Family dynamics can be treacherous.

If I’ve struck a nerve, maybe this piece will somehow provide the inspiration to find someone about whom you could sing the lyrics of the song. Perhaps you have.

Yes, I miss my mom. I wish she were here…