Reclining in a tub of rose petals (hmmm, never did that), other relaxation techniques, guided imagery, breathing techniques, positive self-talk, visualization – all great remedies for mood and anxiety issues.
BUT – the fact of the matter is, individually or combined, they aren’t going to destroy depression, anxiety, or bipolar disorder. Ouch, right? Well, wait a minute here; because I’m not proposing the end of the world.
I was talking with a chipur reader on the phone last night who’s been experiencing a recurrence of some panic symptoms. She’d had her first panic attack years ago while driving; however, she’d worked hard and had been panic-free (notice I didn’t say “panic-cured”).
Well, a month or so ago she very unexpectedly had a panic attack on the drive home from work; and has found her confidence compromised ever since. As “punch-in-the-gut” as it is, it’s not unusual at all. Yes, it happens.
We talked at length about so many cool things, and at the end of our conversation, after ensuring me she’d been focusing upon her breathing, she asked if I had any tips on how to get over the hump. Well, I offered a few ideas and she said she’d already incorporated them.
But you know what? That was okay, because we both knew the solution to her temporary discomfort wasn’t going to be in re-stocking her strategy and technique arsenal, and obsessing over their deployment.
What we came up with, instead – and it was so cool because it was already mutually understood before a word was spoken – was continuing to understand that just as she’d had the original panic attack and got past it – so she would her immediate circumstances.
Back to my opening paragraph. Please don’t misunderstand; those techniques, as well as others, can be tremendously helpful as we achieve and maintain relief. But we, and those who peddle “miracle-cures,” do ourselves a gross injustice when we elect to believe they’re the end-all/cure-all. They aren’t, and it’s the same with meds.
Our relief is found in a multi-faceted, and flexible, effort. As I’ve said so many times, we can’t lose the forest for the trees. Yes, the blending sum of our work is so much more powerful than its individual parts could ever be.
That said, let’s start a list of the components that’ll build the foundation for our “forest-focused” lifestyle management regimen…
- Self-honest insight as to our disorder(s)
- Understanding how our distress has impacted our lives in the past
- Knowing what’s comfortable, as well as what isn’t
- Knowing what to expect if we don’t self-manage
- Having an arsenal of self-proven relief strategies and techniques locked and loaded for immediate use if needed
- Knowing when it’s time to put our prepared strategies and techniques to work – instead of flipping-out
- Understanding that we have a proven track record of emerging from the depths of our ick
- Staying in relationship with a counselor and folks enduring the same stuff
- Your thoughts…
It was great talking with my chipur friend last night. And it’s just another example of how important it is for all of us to stay connected. Just as the strength of our individual relief mission is based in the sum of its parts, each of us become so much stronger when we derive power from the connection of community.
Won’t you share with us in a comment?