“Okay, Mr. Bill. So now you have me believing anger may be contributing to my panic attack symptoms, depression, and hair-on-fire stress. Shoot, they’re probably generating anger, too. Back to you, smart-guy. What are we gonna’ do about this supposed ‘anger management’ problem of mine?”
Have a chat with yourself, confirming that anger is an acceptable – necessary – phenomenon. And come to understand that anger isn’t inherently bad; however, it sure as heck merits intervention when it causes harm to self or others.
Hey, maybe I can help our friend, as well as you. Have you ever considered that a significant portion of your emotional/mental misery may be caused by (hidden) anger, and vice versa?
If you’d like to find-out, the first order of biz is reading last week’s article, if you haven’t already. Come on, tap that link above and see where you stand.
So how’d you do? Did any of the 22 signs nail you between the eyes? Did you score your results? What’s your conclusion?
The “Anger Management” Opportunity | 12 Points of Perspective and Growth
Tell ya’ what – whether or not you put last week’s article into motion, if you’ve ever suspected that anger is a problem, I have something to share that’ll really help. Will you consider these points of perspective and growth?
- Have a chat with yourself, confirming that anger is an acceptable – necessary – phenomenon. And come to understand that anger isn’t inherently bad; however, it sure as heck merits intervention when it causes harm to self or others.
- Do the thorough and honest internal research required to determine if anger is, indeed, causing harm to you or others. Be sure to utilize the List of 22.
- If you’ve come to the conclusion your anger requires intervention, decide you’re going to do something about it – now. Don’t even bother with the assessment if you’re going to ignore a call to action.
- Over several days, make a list of things that tick you off. Do not do this in one “let’s get it over with” sitting.
- Examine each and every item on your tick-me-off list and reflect upon what it is that hits you so hard about it. Write down the results.
- Now examine your notes and see if there are common themes. I mean, what thread(s) seems to work its way through your anger experience and presentation?
- Now that you have a list of what fries your bacon, and what’s likely behind each, decide if you’re willing to do what it takes to somehow make peace. If the answer’s “No,” go on and be miserable. If it’s “Yes,” move on down this list.
- Go back to each item on your list and determine how you can let it go. That’s right, let…it…go. I didn’t say forget about it, mind you. No, whether it’s through meditation, therapy, reason – whatever – I said let it go. If you don’t think you can do that (when in fact you really can), challenge yourself to gain insight into why that is. What’s in it for you to hold-on to the material?
- As you work toward letting it go, fill the gaps with productive thoughts and activities (anger = energy). After all, you’re going to be clearing-out tons of room.
- Come to understand this isn’t an overnight process. In addition to time, it requires discipline, practice, creativity – and guts.
- Use the List of 22 as a progress measurement tool in the days, weeks, and months ahead.
- Look upon yourself with admiration – be proud of yourself – because you made it your business to examine not exactly your best side, and chose to do something about it. And it’s fostering a better life for you, as well as those you touch.
What think you?
Now, if you chose to read the article because you thought you were going to learn “anger management” techniques, like punching or screaming into a pillow, you’re probably disappointed. Yes?
Hey, don’t get me wrong, such techniques are great – and you can find a jillion of them online. However, why technique your life away when you have no insight into the foundation of your anger? And who knows? It’s quite possible you’ll bump into something at the very heart of your anger that, upon addressing, will quash the need for techniques altogether.
Look at it this way. Say you were experiencing chronic headaches and had yet to see a physician. Do you think my initial recommendation would be to scout pain relievers, or get in front of a doc?
How ‘Bout We Close?
We started our work last week, discovering 22 signs of hidden anger. And now we’ve moved-on to discovering the anger opportunity – and gut-level ways to embrace it, and grow.
Run ’em by me – stress, panic attack symptoms, major depressive disorder, G.I. probs, broken relationships, and more – anger can generate ’em all, as well as present as a result. Don’t you think it’s time to work a little smarter than traditional “anger management?”
Sure it is. Will you seize the opportunity?
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