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The UNIQUENESS & LIKABILITY of YOU (If you dare observe)

Why do I get anxious

It often takes every ounce of energy we can muster to get out of bed in the morning. And then it’s on to a day of depression, anxiety, and self-beating. Life can be hard. Still, our uniqueness and likability remain intact, if we dare observe…

During the burn, everything becomes our fault. And feelings of dread, anxious avoidance, tics, trembling, obsessions, compulsions – every torturing symptom – provide proof that we just don’t amount to much.

We’ve been way up in our heads with research and meds over the past handful of weeks. I mean, it’s good to “go science;” however, it’s important to come down to earth and just talk on occasion. As a writer – as a mood and anxiety disorder guy – I enjoy that very much.

So that’s just what we’re going to do this week…

Do I have to tell you that living with a mood or anxiety disorder can be horribly painful? And if one of them isn’t plenty, many of us have the pleasure of juggling both.

Even if we have our circumstances under management, there are still those days. Right? After all, it takes so much effort and energy to navigate and survive, and it can all catch-up with us every now and then.

That’s something the “normal” Joan or Joe could never understand.

Adios to Uniqueness & Likability

We get all wound-up by the plotting, maneuvering, taking of hits, and bandaging of our mood and anxiety disordered lives. So much so that we lose the self-appreciation forest for the trees. And it isn’t long before our perception of uniqueness and likability is burned to the ground.

During the burn, everything becomes our fault. And feelings of dread, anxious avoidance, tics, trembling, obsessions, compulsions – every torturing symptom – provide proof that we just don’t amount to much.

That’s sad.

An Exercise in Self-Observation

We can’t allow the self-beatings to continue. So in an effort to bring us back to a positive sense of self, here’s a little something to toy around with…

Would you agree that, at base, each of us are self-contained units living our lives by moving about on a variety of sets? Really, if we observed ourselves from the outside that’s what we’d see.

But I don’t think we dare make that observation often enough, if ever. After all, in our minds, who wants to chance a blow-by-blow account of self?

Okay, imagine looking at a live video feed of you being you all day long. For whatever reason, I prefer a “bird’s-eye” view – directly overhead – camera angle.

Yes, I do this – often.

Here’s what I’m suggesting. Make birds-eye view observations of you participating in your activities throughout the day. You can do it in the midst of what you’re up to or review a scene after the fact. At the end of the day, maybe while you’re lying in bed, roll some more tape. Perhaps you’ll want to observe specific scenes.

It’s important that your participation in this activity is as an outside and objective observer, with no negative judgment. And don’t do any editing. For instance, if you bolted as you approached an anxiety-provoking encounter, leave the scene as is.

Remember, this is about observing you as you and coming to appreciate your uniqueness and likability – all in the face of the self-beatings to which you’ve become accustomed. And coming upon some acceptance would be a bonus.

By the way, you can’t tell me there wouldn’t be even a portion of a scene in which you were so pleased with what you observed it brightened your eyes and brought a smile to your face.

Come on, now.

That’ll Do It

Life in the mood and anxiety neck of the woods can be harder than a rock. And that reality so often results in great harm to body, soul – and self-appreciation.

We can’t let that go unchallenged. Ever.

You may think you’re worthless, weak, silly, stupid, filthy, shame-worthy, or whatever. Still, your uniqueness and likability remain intact, if you dare observe.

Never fails…

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