The wheels are gonna’ come off the wagon. Count on it. And one doesn’t have to be in the throes of major depressive disorder, panic attack symptoms, chronic stress, PTSD, or another emotional/mental woe. So the only thing worth discussing is what we’re gonna’ do when it happens…
So how many times have the wheels come off your wagon? Hasn’t happened yet? Come on, do you really believe you’re exempt? I mean, Lord knows I’ve had to grease the axles a time or twenty. It’s called life, and anticipation and preparation go a looong way toward easing pain.
17 Ways to Get ‘Er Rollin’
Embrace the circumstances as the best possible learning and growth opportunity (and endeavor to do just that, being joyful upon the completion of stages).
Again, I’ve had my run-ins with misery over the many years – anxiety, mood, and alcohol probs aside. So between my knocks, and those of my clients, I’ve amassed quite a list of effective go-to’s when the wheels come flyin’ off.
I’d like to share 17 of ’em…
- Understand this is not the end of the world – life will go on (unless we say otherwise)
- Don’t speculate on tomorrow(s) based upon how we feel in the moment (prob isn’t gonna’ look so hot)
- Realize our feelings and behavior may be based upon cognitive distortions (things are likely not as bad as we think)
- Allow the circumstances and response to evolve (forcing things will only gum-us-up)
- Reach-out to our spiritual-head with prayer and/or meditation (and listen with an open heart and mind)
- Hold on to who we are, not what or how (what better time to learn the distinction)
- Embrace the circumstances as the best possible learning and growth opportunity (and endeavor to do just that, being joyful upon the completion of stages)
- What a great time to truly grasp the suffering of others (and reach-out to them)
- Accept our suffering, and be worthy of it (doesn’t matter what we expect from life, rather the other way around)
- If we have a life-purpose, consider our circumstances within its context (if no purpose exists, chop-chop)
- Don’t isolate and revel in being alone (we need others more than we know, and they us)
- Don’t abandon forward motion (if our knee-jerk is “no,” we need to forge ahead with “yes”)
- It’s okay to take hits (that happens to humans)
- Never give-up on hope (it doesn’t quit on us)
- This may well be our life-defining moment (seize it)
- Turn to a prepared “Crisis Plan” (if we don’t have one, we need to get to work)
- This is not the end of the world – life will go on (did I already say that?)
Hey, let’s not kid ourselves, folks, sooner or later the wheels are gonna’ come off the wagon. Happens plenty when we hit rocky roads. And no one said anything about having to be in the midst of major depressive disorder, PTSD, panic attack symptoms, or any other emotional/mental dilemma.
Are you without wheels now? Willing to accept you will be? Well, print this piece and keep it in your back pocket for that rocky-road day.
By the way, would you share a fix or two in the comment section? After all, we learn from each other. Thanks!
Well, the wheels aren’t going to come off on 600+ Chipur titles, so ride on ’em. Oh, and I’d like to share some of the kind things folks have had to say about Chipur – and my mentoring/coaching services. Take a look?
Okay, first thing, I always adore what I view as your “clip and save” lists because that is EXACTLY what I do. I copy and then paste them in whatever journal I am keeping in my purse and I also copy and paste them in an application called Inkpad Notepad. This is an inexpensive app available in either the GooglePlay store for the Android OS or in the iTunes store for iPhones that allows you to keep notes and other things like grocery lists on multiple devices and the notes stay synced up. I keep lots of my important “stuff” (like these emergency How Tos) in this app so I have them on any of my computers, tablets or my cell phone. Snifty, huh!
Now as to other ideas, my number one is to remind myself that I am not my brain. By that I mean that I can be having a lot of thoughts and emotions that may have nothing to do with my genuine reality because that is just how things work inside of me. I always call these my “Crazy Bone” thoughts because it is just like having a “funny bone” that hurts like all get out when I hit it on something, I can get Crazy Bone thoughts if something strikes me in an odd or troubling way. Hitting my funny bone does not mean I’ve been critically injured and having Crazy Bone thoughts does not mean I am crazy. I am not my brain. I am far more than that and Crazy Bone thoughts will not last forever.
As to your #14, if I can’t find some hope, I will borrow some from someone else. It works for me, and if I have a friend who is running low on hope, I will lend them some of mine. This ties back directly to your #11 because we NEED to be connected to others and be genuine about where we are, how we are hurting, and allow them to help us heal. Suffering in silence is not a workable solution.
Thanks for being the flat tire repair service for us today Bill. Another keeper, and I am so thankful for you once again and always.
Ah, Patricia presents. Glad you stopped-by and contributed (as always, by the way). Those “clip and save” lists of mine, huh. I like the way you phrase it. Sure come in handy, don’t they? Thanks for the “snifty” app tip.
“Crazy Bone” thoughts and “I am not my brain.” Love it! Making the distinction between them and “genuine reality” is enormous. Very much about acceptance, as well. Don’t you think?
Chipur the “flat tire repair service” – doesn’t get any better than that. Please know I’m thankful for you and my other readers. Feels good…
Didn’t know where to post this. I keep stable by having a daily routine, maybe a bit too rigid, but it helps with depression. As for most of them, I often fail. I do have a Buddhist practice and that helps greatly.
Here is a great article on schizophrenia and stability. I was going to post it in last weeks, Jessica’s story, but it seems to apply here as well. http://beyondmeds.com/2014/09/19/why-stabilizing-people-is-wrong-idea/
Hey, Nancy – posting here works just fine, and it’s appreciated. Check- out the link, folks. Nancy is always into interesting and meaningful shtuff…
As always, Bill, you do such a marvelous job of helping people simplify the complex — not minimize but rather something to grab onto while they sort out the complex. I really liked #6 and #3 and thing Patricia’s additions are terrific, as well. I’ll be passing this along!
Glad you’ll be passing the piece along, Lisa. I’ve always found lists like this extremely helpful. I mean, it’s like when those wheels come flyin’ off one could use the above as rather a checklist – going through each to make sure all bases are covered. It’s a mental discipline, and it’s always worked for me.
Keep stopping-by and contributing, Lisa – thank you. Always welcome here…