“A fairy shared the most wonderful news in a dream last night. My mood and anxiety disorders aren’t biological life sentences. Could it be true?”
So now you’re awake. And you know what? It is!
The #1 Contributor to Mood and Anxiety Woes
The #1 contributor to a presentation of a mood or anxiety disorder is misinterpretation of, and overreaction to, truly harmless internal and external stimuli.
And not only is it your top-drawer rabble-rouser, it’s your greatest relief and healing opportunity.
Need an intervention target? There it is.
So why are the dynamics of misinterpretation and overreaction so powerful? First of all, they’ve been around for a long time, likely grounded in years of passive acceptance.
And there’s the matter of a learned distrust – even suspicion – of your internal and external worlds.
Try as you may to believe your point of view is irrational and inaccurate; without intervention, on you go in acquiescence and fear.
“How Did I Come By That?”
And now you’re wondering where it all came from. You may actually have been born with the predisposition. But let’s just say you likely took it on very early in life.
Think about it – so much of your perception of the world was acquired by how it was presented to you as a kid.
The messages were many, varied, and likely innocent. But if you interpreted them to mean the world, people, and relationships were things to fear – without intervention – you began to think, feel, and behave accordingly.
In addition, if you perceived your childhood feelings and fears as bad, and something that should never be openly discussed, you could be sure they’d become difficult issues for you as life progressed.
I mean, if something can’t be talked about, in a child’s mind it has to be bad. Right?
And if the perception was – say – “Big boys and girls don’t feel, or show, insecurity and fear,” I’ll double guarantee trouble was going to be right around the corner.
And what about this?
If potentially stress-producing events such as storm warnings, the coming temporary absence of a parent, upcoming visits to the doctor, etc., were kept from you as a child – “No, don’t tell her, it’ll upset her.” – what other end-result could you expect from an already fear and stress-sensitive child, but a maladaptive perception of her world?
Always remember, as much as you may have looked up to parents, parent-figures, and adult mentors; they aren’t/weren’t necessarily experts in child development and psychology. Most gave/give their best, but very unintentional mistakes could have been made.
Let’s put a lid on the psychobabble. Sure, it’s important to understand why we acquire our possessions. But it’s more important to work on changing patterns.
As many chipur articles as there are to help you do that, reading all of them will do you know good. At least until you accept the fact that your misinterpretations and overreactions are holding you back.
Funny thing about those fairies. They’re often right.
Your mood and anxiety woes aren’t biological life sentences.
Make misinterpretation and overreaction your intervention targets. It’s never too late to change your patterns of thought, feeling, and behavior.
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