“I‘m tired of living this hell called ‘life.’ I feel like I’m trapped with absolutely no way out, and I hate it. Damn, I seem to have no choices!”
Have you ever said that? Perhaps you shouted-it-out minutes ago (for the 10th time in the past hour).
Boy, as a counselor, I’ve heard it more times than I can count. And as a mood and anxiety disorder vet, I’ve screamed it ‘til my voice simply gave out.
It’s the ultimate expression of frustration, pain, desperation, and hopelessness, don’t you think?
But I’m here to tell you – though it may seem impossible to believe when life’s at its very worst – choices really do exist. Positive ones, at that. And they wait faithfully by your side for the calling.
This notion of choices can be a tough one to swallow for someone enduring a mood or anxiety disorder.
I mean, one may think they have no choices in the present, because they had no choices in the past. Included may be genetics, parents, the environment in which they were raised – and then some.
Valid points all.
But in spite of the fallout from these no-choice occurrences of the past, positive and healthy choices abound in the present. So don’t fool yourself into believing they aren’t there. They are. It’s just a matter of coming to know they exist. Then it’s on to the choice-search/selection process as life circumstances dictate.
Those circumstances? Here are just a few (and if they’re in bad shape, it’s likely because you really did make some choices – albeit bad ones)…
- Patterns of thought, feeling, and behavior
- The way in which you interpret, and react to, all sorts of incoming stimuli
- Work and school issues
- Your take on life, in general
All key players in your overall sense of well-being, not to mention the status of your mood or anxiety disorder.
Choices – as much as you may believe you don’t have any, they’re plentiful. So when you’re absolutely suffocating in feelings of “there’s no way out,” reach way deep down inside and find the insight and clarity to embrace the existence and power of choice(s).
All is not hopeless, or lost.
How ’bout we wrap things up with two spot-on quotations?
Life is a sum of all your choices. (Albert Camus)
In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility. (Eleanor Roosevelt)
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