Light equates to hope. So when someone cries over their dark days, you know what they fear losing. In these hard times, I don’t believe light – hope – has been snuffed-out. Let’s talk about how to bring it to our darkest of days…
She ended by saying her faith is being tested. The context for her comment? ‘…my emotional/mental state in these dark days!’
Every week I do it anyway because I refuse to ignore the emotional and mental impact of the times, turning my back on you.
By the way, “that” is inescapable. “That” drives mood, anxiety, and peace of mind. “That” is the puppet master of the day.
“That” is a shame.
Her “dark days”
On the Chipur Facebook page last week, a woman commented on the article, Are you suicidal? Someone you know? Read this.
She wrote of seeking peace, comfort, and guidance through prayer; and allowed as how God was her only true hope for her life’s journey. She ended by saying her faith is being tested. The context for her comment? “…my emotional/mental state in these dark days!”
In reply, I confirmed that we’re all enduring a major test. And I said that working hard and holding onto faith is how we’ll make it through. And we will make it through.
I told her I was glad she opened her heart because people need to know they’re not alone, including her. In closing I thanked her for sharing her spirit. And, acknowledging the dark days, I assured her the light shines brightly.
She thanked me and said she needed to hear what I had to say. Then she passed along God’s blessing. It was a sweet exchange.
“The light shines brightly.” How do I know?
So our commenter wrote, “…in these dark days!” And taking into account her entire comment, it’s obvious she’s been struggling.
She was pleased with my reply, saying she needed to hear it. But you could fairly ask of me…
“Where do you get-off telling her the light shines brightly?” “How do you know?”
Now I’ll ask you something. In the midst of bitter times, do we always see things as they truly are?
I’m betting most of us think we’re eyeballing things accurately. But maybe it would help if we considered this more a matter of perception. And, fact is, perception can be a product of all sorts of things – personality characteristics, belief system, and cognitive distortion, to name a few.
So who knows? Our commenter’s observation of dark days could be grounded in, say, being naturally pessimistic, a belief system that may need a shake-up, polarized thinking, and/or overgeneralization,
Any of them can alter the view. And when two or more are at play, reality itself may be called into question.
That’s why I boldly told her the light shines brightly. She may not be able to see and feel it just now – I get it. But the light – hope – didn’t suddenly get snuffed-out. Can’t happen.
How to bring light to our darkest of days
You know, I’m thinking this may not be about bringing light to our darkest of days. Perhaps it’s an issue of rediscovering light that never really went away. And, believe me, rediscovery is a much easier task than creation – finding something that never existed.
That being the case, I’m not going to complicate your life by presenting “x” number of ways to bring light to your darkest of days. Actually, it’s much simpler than that.
Take the time to have a little chat with yourself, asking these questions…
- Is it possible that light permanently went bye-bye?
- Given these awful times, is it possible that things such as personality characteristics, belief system, and cognitive distortion may be peaking and causing an altered view or questionable reality?
- Knowing you suffer from a mood or anxiety disorder, what’s been your experience with altered views and questionable reality?
When the chat’s over, objectively re-evaluate the validity of your dark days. Sure, I know what you’re feeling, but is light truly forever lost?
I think you’ll come to know that your circumstances likely aren’t as dire as you may think. And when the dots connect, on comes light – and hope. It may not be shining as brightly as you’d like, but give it time. Before you know it you’ll be soaking it in like our friend and her pal above.
How can that not be true?
Hey, for even more assistance and support, take a look at 14 tips for really living life. (Enduring is such a drag.)
If you’re looking for some calm and meaningful reading, check-out my eBook, Feelings & Rhymes Through Treacherous Times.
And those Chipur articles. Hundreds and hundreds to choose from.